This is baby is Kamryn. She is the sparkle in her parents eyes and such a blessing. When the road to having your blessing is a hard one you treasure that blessing all the more! She was one of the first to sign up for the Baby Milestone Minis that I am offering once a month this year. This girl and her joy and the connection I have with her mother had my thoughts on a rabbit trail this morning.
Kami’s mother was my youngest daughter’s speech teacher in Pre-K. Caroline is my youngest daughter. She will be eight in a few weeks which is really hard for me to believe. Recently, we pulled out the kids Valentine’s pictures from when I did Vday Minis 4 and 5 years ago. Caroline quickly noticed she wasn’t in any of them. This fact still makes my heart skip a beat. It is when grief hits you unexpectantly that you feel unprepared. I’ve learned to sit with it and talk it through with her.
Caroline wasn’t with us 4 years ago. But she was in the world. And that is a fact. It is a fact I can’t change it no matter how badly I want to. My daughter lived her whole newborn, infant, and toddler life without a mother or father. Without a family. Without grandparents. Alone. But taken care of by two different orphanages and the nannies that worked there. I truly believe by the pictures and short clips of video we have of her at the last orphanage that she was created with a purpose and given a resiliency of spunk that helped her survive. God has a purpose for that child!
Back to the milestones…there is a point in most babies and toddlers where they spend most of their days picking up cheerios or puffs. I took that part of motherhood for granted. That is until someone pointed out that my child missed that part. They ate twice a day and were spoon fed congee which is like the consistency of grits or oatmeal with a tiny sliver of meat in it. I’m not sure if this was to ensure they ate and didn’t waste food or to keep the kids from being messy. But what this friend pointed out was that picking up cheerios and puffs is building muscle tone in their little fingers.
All this to say in this random post today is that if you have a baby or toddler remember in the mess that they are building muscle strength in those chubby fingers! Be grateful for it! One day when they enter school or need to learn to button, tie a shoelace, turn a knob, cut with scissors, hold a pencil, or just grasp an object they will have the muscle strength to do it!
Hang in there Mamas! The reward is not instant…motherhood is a marathon! Celebrate the milestones as they come…you are molding a great human! Much love from one Mama to another!
By the way if you are ever interested in our adoption story you can read more about our lives HERE!